Pleasing people
By Belspearl
This is a topic that people don’t talk about enough. Many people are born people pleasers. I identify as a “recovering” people pleaser. I have come such a long way and I want to share what I have learned to bring hope and restoration to others. I didn’t realize that I was a people pleaser until in my adult years. After my childhood, after college, and even after I started working at my first job. I was living a life that revolved around keeping the people around me happy. I wish I could say that I could blame it on the people around me. But, I cannot. It is a heart issue. Something that only God can repair.
I had this fear that as soon as those close to me discovered the real me they would no longer want me. I was looking at life through a conditional lens. If I was to accomplish tasks, make people smile, and keep them happy then I would have their attention, affection, and respect. That is the scariest part about pleasing people. Everyone stated that I was a kind, sweet, and friendly person. No one realized that I was on a steady downward dangerous spiral.
I had been working a stable job for 2 years. I lived in a large house with roommates. I was dating guys. Hanging out with friends. But, one day I realized that no one around me was happy. The more I would try the more it didn’t work. The harder I would have to work. I was judgemental, frustrated, and then all of a sudden I became depressed. I couldn’t get out of bed. I couldn’t smile. I had given up. My life was a waste and I had let everyone down. I was not okay. I was the complete opposite of what everyone thought I was. No one could understand or help me.
I went to counseling. It helped me change my perspective. When I started looking into it; God has a lot to say about it. “The fear of the Lord leads to life; then one rests content, untouched by trouble.” Proverbs 19:23. This verse is amazing! I was afraid of what people thought of me. I didn’t want people to know the real me. Then, they wouldn’t want me. Instead, my fear needed to be pointed toward Christ. He is the only opinion that should matter. His perspective is the only one that reveals my identity. I needed to view him with a holy fear. However, the power in this verse is what follows. UNTOUCHED BY TROUBLE. The stress of making people happy is gone. Words of people no longer hold meaning. Darts that Satan throws don’t stick. When God is the one you are pleasing you find true peace. Peace that passes beyond understanding (Phil 4:7).
The more time you spend with God the more he will change your identity. I am happy now because I fear the Lord. I follow the plans he has for me. I ask him to show me how to love. When to love. What people decide to do with what I have done is up to them. I am held accountable to the God who holds my heart. Praying blessings over you. That you find the freedom God wants you to have.
Thank you. Have a God glorifying day.
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Tuesday, 5 March 2019
God Our Protector
We have seen in the past, and continue to see, a great many tragedies in our world—earthquakes, tsunamis, floods, hurricanes and, of course, the terrorist attack on the World Trade Center on Sept. 11, 2001. The list could continue ad infinitum. During tragedies like these, we often see innocent peoples’ lives snuffed out in a matter of minutes or seconds. Many times the focus is put upon the children and how tragic it is for families who lose a child in an untimely death.
These types of tragedies will inevitably engender the following questions: “Where was God?” “Why didn’t God protect us?” “If there is a God, why does He allow such horrible accidents?”
For many people, it comes down to a very basic question: “Does God exist?” People like to take personal credit for any successes they have. If something goes wrong, however, they are quick to blame God.
Do you believe that God protects those who call upon Him? Every year in our church, we have a special ceremony to ask God to bless the little children. And nearly every time we have an opening or closing prayer at a church service, we ask for God’s protection. Do we believe He will protect us? Of course! Does He? Absolutely! Does He sometimes allow even those who pray for His protection to experience an accident or even a tragedy? Yes. Have you ever been in an automobile/motorcycle—or any kind of accident? Do you believe that even in that accident God protected you—saved your life? Do you know of anyone who has died in an accident?
I think most have experienced an accident of some sort. If you’ve been around for a long time, you surely have heard of those who believe that if it were not for God, they would have had much worse things happen. How many people on that Minnesota bridge fell more than 60 feet and suffered little or no physical damage? How many surfaced from their cars after plunging headlong into the river?
So, how should a Christian approach this subject? What if someone on the job, a relative or an acquaintance asks you, “How could a loving God allow this to happen?” What would you say? Would you be ready to give an answer?
If we look at God’s Word, we see that there are some reasons that accidents and tragedies occur in this world. We also need to understand this subject—not only for our own peace of mind, but to help others understand, if the situation ever arises.
Consider three principles that can help us keep tragedy and disaster in perspective.
We are all flesh and blood!
First, to some extent what we’re talking about is physical inevitability. Man is physical. We’re all temporary! Look at Hebrews 9:27: “And as it is appointed for men to die once, but after this the judgment.” Another verse that illustrates this point is 1 Corinthians 15:50 where Paul writes that “flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God.”
God never intended that mankind would live forever in the flesh. You cannot find any scripture to support such an idea. In spite of mankind trying to perpetuate his physical existence by every means possible—be it technology, medicines, surgeries or cryogenics—the truth is that we deteriorate and wear out! Of course, some of us wear out faster than others due to genes, lifestyle, exercise, diet, accidents or some other factor.
If we look at this subject with the realization that we are physical and at some point in the future we will expire, we will be able to understand why God allows death. Let’s face it, we can’t turn ourselves over and see our expiration date. God has power over death through the resurrection, and all who die will live again, in their own order as shown in 1 Corinthians 15:23: “But each one in his own order: Christ the firstfruits, afterward those who are Christ’s at His coming.” Part of this understanding involves knowing God’s plan (revealed through His annual Holy Days) and knowing that all mankind will have the opportunity to have life eternal at some point in the future.
Why are there tragedies and accidents in the world today?
Second, we need to consider who is behind tragedy and disaster. Is God responsible? “We know that…the whole world lies under the sway of the wicked one” (1 John 5:19). This is not God’s world. YET! Satan is the destroyer (Abaddon and Apollyon in Hebrew and Greek, Revelation 9:11), the deceiver (Revelation 12:9), the father of murders (John 8:44). He persecutes the Church and tries to devour the sheep of God like a lion (1 Peter 5:8). We must understand that God allows Satan to have some power over “natural disasters” on this earth (for now)—but he and his minions will be vanquished at the coming of Jesus Christ (2 Thessalonians 2:8 and Revelation 20:2). Though Satan rules this society, he is still limited in what he is allowed to do.
In this world, we learn to trust God and endure—to avoid and resist Satan at all cost (1 Peter 5:9-10). We must turn to God in the face of disasters and according to His will—He will protect us!
The principle of cause and effect
Many times personal catastrophes are the result of going against that which is right (transgression against spiritual laws is sinning). What about an event where a 2-year-old was hit by a car? Lots of questions can be asked about a situation like this: Was he taught properly to stay out of the street? Where was his mother or guardian? Maybe it was the driver’s fault—was the driver speeding or impaired? These same sorts of questions can be extended to any accident.
Think back to the Minnesota bridge collapse. If a bridge is allowed to deteriorate into a state of disrepair, and you put 150 cars on it during rush hour and it falls down, someone must have overlooked something. Is there an engineering design or principle that would have prevented its collapse?
Can you even imagine mankind doing anything he wanted and knowing that there would never be any penalty or consequence? What kind of a miserable, topsy-turvy world would that be? Would we all be automatons doing what comes naturally and having God watching every move we made? We’d never get burned when we touched fire, never die if we jumped off a building—the list could just go on and on.
If we see negative effects in our lives, we should evaluate them to determine if they are the result of inappropriate actions. Where necessary and possible, we should be able to make necessary adjustments (for instance, repentance which includes changing from sinning to obeying God). Change the cause, so you get the desired effect!
We are free moral agents and can choose to do right or wrong. God told the nation of Israel that He wanted them to be a model nation for all other nations and to choose life (see Deuteronomy 30:11-19).
Ultimately God will give each person an opportunity to choose His way. We have been given the opportunity to choose that way now. Very few today understand what the right choices are, but someday the whole world will come to understand! But even though we have that opportunity, sometimes it’s hard to make the right choice. If we balance on the edge of a cliff over a canyon or a river, there’s a chance that we will fall. If you choose to do dangerous things or choose a dangerous activity to participate in, God will sometimes allow you to suffer the penalty.
We can avoid many tragedies in this life if we choose God’s way over the way of this world. You will be blessed and protected, but sometimes even God’s people are victims of:
Time and chance
Ecclesiastes 9:10-11: “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going. I returned, and saw under the sun that—the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, nor bread to the wise, nor riches to men of understanding, nor favor to men of skill; but time and chance happen to them all.”
“Time and chance” doesn’t mean that we roll the dice and gamble every time we step out of our houses. As Christians, we pray each day for God’s blessings, guidance, deliverance and protection. We live our lives with confidence and faith in God. Notice what Satan said to God: “Have You not made a hedge around him, around his household, and around all that he has on every side? You have blessed the work of his hands, and his possessions have increased in the land” (Job 1:10).
“Time and chance” just means that sometimes things happen that we never expected. God is carefully guiding and molding those He has called into His Church, so what happens to them will not ever be simply time and chance. But when we don’t see what God is doing behind the scenes, it often seems to be time and chance. The point for everyone to remember is, things will often happen that you don’t expect.
Circumstances occur over time, accidents happen, cars drive on the wrong side of the road, bridges fall down; there are hurricanes, tornadoes, floods, violence, terrorism, etc. We need to be on guard and vigilant in this world, and of course, we need to do our part to do what’s right.
In Luke 13:1-5 Jesus used an example similar to the Minnesota bridge collapse. He explained that those who died when a tower fell on them didn’t deserve to perish because they were worse than others. He used their tragic experience with “time and chance” to teach that when a person repents and commits to following Jesus, their lives are not left to arbitrary tragedy. Even if they fall victim to what seems to be a random circumstance, they can be assured that God is aware and is watching over them.
We need to also realize that at times God will allow us to encounter a trial to test our faith.
Trials are a test of faith
God promises to never test us beyond what we can endure (1 Corinthians 10:13), which is one of the most encouraging verses in the Bible for a Christian. Combine this with Hebrews 11:6 (“But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him”) and we see that our faith must be unwavering—knowing that our future is not based on the physical. There are several scriptures about trials. This is because God allows some trials and gives us other trials! It’s part of the life of a Christian to suffer in this world. We can learn valuable lessons from enduring, and we’re admonished by Christ to endure to the end.
Ultimately God will deliver us from even the most difficult and severe circumstances (see Psalms 34:17-22). For some this will be when we enter His Kingdom! It may not necessarily happen in this life!
Being content with what you have (see Philippians 4:11-13) can also apply to trials. Sometimes when we go through very difficult trials, we can be discouraged and we may even ask God to remove a trial. When we experience a trial, God is working specifically in the situation so we might learn the most we can in this life and develop patience and overcome! He knows what we need, when we need it and the difficulty we can endure!
Conclusion
God is our protector, but we must do our part. And we must live life with the understanding that we were not meant to live forever in the flesh. God does protect us according to His will (see Psalms 91:1-16). According to His will, this means “in our best interest” (even though we may not be able to see it at the time)! He wants us to make it into His Kingdom and be part of His eternal family. He knows how to protect us and how to work in our lives.
God wants us to be in good health and to prosper in this life, and that’s good! But that is not all there is to life. It’s true that we have a great future ahead of us, and we need to focus on that future, not on the physical. What happens in this life cannot even be compared to the things that God has prepared for those who love Him (1 Corinthians 2:9).
Enjoy each other. While times are good, kiss your mate, hug and kiss your kids! Praise and thank God for your blessings. Ask God to protect you, according to His will, and only give you trials that you can endure!
And in every circumstance remember the promise in Hebrews 13:5-6: “Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you, nor forsake you.’ So we may boldly say: ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?”
Monday, 4 March 2019
FREEDOM BY GOD FROM THE DEVIL
Satan’s work is not the chief peril dealt with in the death of Christ. God’s wrath is. God is opposed to us in his righteous wrath, and he is for us in his love. Therefore, in his great love, he sends his Son to endure his own wrath against us. In this way, his righteousness is upheld and his love is expressed. His wrath and curse and condemnation of our sin are endured for us by another—a substitute, Jesus Christ. Here are some of the texts that teach this:
§ “Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him” (John 3:36).
§ “Since . . . we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God” (Romans 5:9).
§ “[We] were by nature children of wrath . . . . But God . . . made us alive together with Christ” (Ephesians 2:3-4).
§ “God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ who died for us” (1 Thessalonians 5:9).
§ “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law [which is an expression of his wrath] by becoming a curse for us [so that we do not bear God’s wrath]” (Galatians 3:13).
§ “By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, [God] condemned sin in the flesh [thus, his wrathful condemnation of sin is expended on his Son’s flesh, not ours]” (Romans 8:3).
Nevertheless, in dealing with God’s wrath in this way, the double work of Satan is itself overcome. It is crucial that we see this wrath-enduring work of Christ as foundational to our deliverance from Satan’s work. To say it more provocatively, it is crucial that we see our deliverance from God as foundational to our deliverance from Satan.
The double work of Satan is his work of accusation and his work of temptation. His name, Satan, means accuser. And John describes him that way, “The accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God” (Revelation 12:10). And both Matthew and Paul call him “the tempter” (Matthew 4:3; 1 Thessalonians 3:5). Consider then how Christ’s deliverance from the wrath of God is the foundation of his deliverance from both these works of Satan.
When Satan accuses us before God, what he accuses us with is sin. The only reason this accusation has a significance is that it is true. Both Satan and God know that we have sinned. And they both know that “the wages of sin is [eternal] death” (Romans 6:23). That is, God’s appointed punishment for sin is eternal torment (Matthew 25:41, 46; Revelation 14:11). Sin deserves and receives God’s wrath. “On account of these [sins] the wrath of God is coming” (Colossians 3:6). So Satan is laying claim to humans and saying that on God’s own terms they must be damned like he is for his sin.
But at this point in Satan’s accusation, Jesus Christ stands forth as our advocate and intercedes for us. God designed this, desires this, and delights in this. “If anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. He is the propitiation for our sins” (1 John 2:1-2). Christ’s advocacy is based on his propitiation—his infallible securing of the removal of God’s wrath for all who are in him. So Satan’s accusations fall to the ground because our Advocate pleads his own blood and righteousness on our behalf. “Who is to condemn? Christ Jesus is the one who died—more than that, who was raised—who is at the right hand of God, who indeed is interceding for us” (Romans 8:34). Christ’s advocacy and intercession for us nullify Satan’s accusations against us. This advocacy and intercession are based on his death for us. By this death for us, Christ endured God’s wrath against us. Therefore, Christ’s deliverance from God’s wrath is the foundation of his deliverance of us from Satan’s accusations.
This is also true of our deliverance from Satan’s temptations. Christ’s propitiating work to deliver us from God’s wrath is not only the foundation of our deliverance from Satan’s accusations but also from his temptations. Many Christians fail to see this. That is why the gospel (the news of Christ’s wrath-enduring, guilt-removing death and resurrection) is so often associated with starting the Christian life but not living the Christian life.
There are at least two ways that the New Testament shows how Christ’s deliverance from God’s wrath is the foundation for our deliverance from Satan’s temptations. One is that our victory over Satan’s temptations assumes God’s merciful help by his Spirit. “Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil” (Ephesians 6:11). “God may perhaps grant them repentance . . . and they may . . . escape from the snare of the devil” (2 Timothy 2:25-26). “By the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body” (Romans 8:13).
Without the merciful gifts of God’s armor and repentance and Spirit, we cannot defeat the temptations of the devil. But the only reason God’s full sanctifying mercy is flowing to us (through his armor and repentance and Spirit) is because his wrath isn’t. And the reason his wrath isn’t is because Christ endured it for us on the cross. Therefore, our deliverance from Satan’s temptations is based on our deliverance from God’s wrath.
One other way that the New Testament shows this is by teaching us that when Christ died for us, we died with him. And because we died with him, we can reckon ourselves dead to Satan’s temptations to sin. “We have been united with [Christ] in a death like his . . . . [O]ur old self was crucified with him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin” (Romans 6:5-6; cf. Galatians 2:20). “One has died for all, therefore all have died” (2 Corinthians 5:14). Therefore, one of the ways we fight Satan’s temptations to sin is to reckon ourselves dead to sin. “So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus” (Romans 6:11). We can do this because when Christ died for us, we died in him.
But why did he have to die for us? Why did we have to die in him? Because the wages of sin is death. God’s righteous wrath sooner or later falls on all sin (colossians 3;16). Therefore, the death of Christ, by which we die to sin, is the same death that endures the wrath of God for us. The death that we die in Christ is both our punishment for sin and our death to sin. They are inseparable. That is why Christ’s work to deliver us from the wrath of God is not only his deliverance from the accusations of the devil but also from the temptations of the devil.
Summarizing, Christ’s wrath-enduring, propitiating work on the cross is the foundation of our justification and our sanctification. This justifying work of God corresponds to, and conquers, Satan’s work of accusation. And this sanctifying work of God corresponds to, and conquers, Satan’s work of temptation. In our justification, Satan’s accusations lose their condemning power, and in our sanctification, Satan’s temptations lose their corrupting power. And both—our deliverance from his accusations and our deliverance from his temptations—are based on our deliverance from God’s wrath by the cross of Christ (that is, by his propitiation).
Therefore, in the defense of the gospel, let us never surrender the wrath-enduring substitution of Christ on our behalf. It is foundational to everything that matters in our lives. And in the radical living of the gospel for the glory of Christ and the good of the world, let us never get beyond the gospel of Christ crucified in our place. May it be our daily bread. May we live by its Satan-defeating power.
Loving the gospel of Christ with you,
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